People say the first year of marriage is the toughest. I guess we've been pretty blessed so far. It feels like The Hubs and I have survived our first year and a half with a fair breeze. Needless to say, this doesn't mean we don't get our fair share of troubles from time to time. It's a huge adjustment after all --starting a new life with someone and everything that comes with them. So here are a few of the lessons (a lot of them we often think of as cliches but prove otherwise) I've learned so far:
1. "You (definitely) marry a whole family."
I keep telling everyone time and again that I've never felt more blessed to belong to a family like my husband's. There has never been a time where I felt like I was an "outsider." My in-laws have all been very warm and loving. The Hubs, in turn, has repeatedly expressed how much he adores my own family. We've truly been lucky. However, not all newly weds can say the same. It's a common theme amongst people I know to have trouble adjusting to their new families. But this is a MUST. This is something crucial that one has a definite need to consider before getting married. Like it or not, your partner's every family ordeal, whether good or bad, will be yours as well. One needs to be ready to be PART of the family you're marrying into, and not simply expect to be a bystander.
I keep telling everyone time and again that I've never felt more blessed to belong to a family like my husband's. There has never been a time where I felt like I was an "outsider." My in-laws have all been very warm and loving. The Hubs, in turn, has repeatedly expressed how much he adores my own family. We've truly been lucky. However, not all newly weds can say the same. It's a common theme amongst people I know to have trouble adjusting to their new families. But this is a MUST. This is something crucial that one has a definite need to consider before getting married. Like it or not, your partner's every family ordeal, whether good or bad, will be yours as well. One needs to be ready to be PART of the family you're marrying into, and not simply expect to be a bystander.
2. "Apologizing doesn't always mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego."
I know what you're thinking --this quote must've been taken straight out of those overly reposted typography-like images on Tumblr or Pinterest. Maybe. But that doesn't make it any less relevant. I can't begin to enumerate how many times this line of thinking has saved our relationship from having to face bigger problems out of trivial matters. It can't be helped that in any relationship, you're going to argue and find things to fight about. It's a difficult lesson to learn, but for most arguments, the both of you eventually have to realize that it's never worth to let your egos win. Saying sorry and actually meaning it is never easy, but when you truly love another person it's usually worth the sacrifice.
I know what you're thinking --this quote must've been taken straight out of those overly reposted typography-like images on Tumblr or Pinterest. Maybe. But that doesn't make it any less relevant. I can't begin to enumerate how many times this line of thinking has saved our relationship from having to face bigger problems out of trivial matters. It can't be helped that in any relationship, you're going to argue and find things to fight about. It's a difficult lesson to learn, but for most arguments, the both of you eventually have to realize that it's never worth to let your egos win. Saying sorry and actually meaning it is never easy, but when you truly love another person it's usually worth the sacrifice.
